Life and Loss

My grandmother died today. Her pain has ended and ours has just begun. I was not able to be with her but I take comfort in the fact that my mother was able to be with her mother in those last moments. I'm going to believe that Nanny was able to hold her daughters hand and know that she was there with her and that through my mother, nanny felt the love we grandchildren and great grandchildren had for her. This is what I'm taking comfort in believing.

Since that phone call from my dad this morning, I've been sneaking off into a corner to cry and at times, the thought that I will not ever be able to see her again makes me desperate. Moreover, I can't shake off this feeling of guilt that insistently lingers over me. I wish I had spent more time with her when she was still alive, I've missed out on so much. I know that this is a part of life. I know this...but knowing this doesn't make the pain any less intense. 

I feel broken at the loss of another pregnancy and now at the loss of my nanny. I know that life isn't fair and that I just need to pull my shoulders back and march on. But....

I don't want to march right now. Right now I want to be held while I cry and Adam is not here to do that. Adam will be home tomorrow....I just need to hang on.

My grandmother died today. And with her death, ended her pain and with her long cherished memories, eased our pain as we passed from pain to love for her, for each other, for the person she saw us as.

I love you Nanny. 



Comments

  1. Janet I am so sorry for the loss of your Nanny. Knowing how funny, quirky and amazing you are shows that your Nanny was probably the same. I hope the coming days and weeks start getting better for you

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  2. I'm so sorry for your loss. :(

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  3. I'm so sorry Janet. I know how it feels and it's just so hard. I hope tomorrow comes really fast so Adam can hold you tight in this difficult time. Hugs to you and your family.

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  4. I'm very sorry for you loss. She was not alone and I'm sure she found comfort in this as her time here drew to a close. I hope Adam gets home safe and quickly to comfort you. Hugs to you and your family.

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  5. I am so very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you.

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  6. I'm so sorry :( You need to be held up for a little bit so you don't have to hold yourself up. I'm sending you cups of tea and hugs through the internet.

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  7. Oh Janet I am so sorry for your loss! Losing a grandparent is very hard on the soul. I am sure that your Nanny knew how much she meant to you and is watching over you now. I am praying for your heart to heal <3

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  8. I'm so sorry, Janet. You and your family are in my thoughts.

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